How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Child

What to say

Sometimes, the most honest thing you can say is: 'I don't know what to say, and I'm here.'

Avoid:

• 'At least...' (There is no 'at least.')
• 'Everything happens for a reason.'
• 'You can try again.'

These phrases, though well-meaning, can feel like doors closing.

What to do

• Show up. Bring food. Don't ask — just bring it.
• Listen. Don't try to fix it. Just listen.
• Remember the dates. A text on the anniversary means more than you know.
• Say their child's name. It is music to a grieving mother's ears.

What to give

A Box of Light from Lillian's Light is a way of saying 'I see you' without requiring anything in return. You can refer a mother, and we'll handle the rest — gently, discreetly, with love.